Motivation $ Inspiration – Self Awareness

PURPOSE

Have you ever sat down and asked yourself why you were born? Why do you exist or doubt what you are even doing with the life that God gave you?

Finding one’s purpose is an integral part of life. I know sometimes it is not easy for us to see the space we occupy in this world. Thoughts of not being of so much importance can at times overwhelm us and make us feel like the world isn’t our place.

As long as you are above the ground, just know that you are of importance and your presence is felt. When you are at rock bottom and you feel like you have actually had enough and you want out of this world, remember there are people who are more helpless and their situations are worse than you could ever imagine. Purpose is not all about knowing where you’ll be in the next five years, having a successful career, marriage and all other great things that you’d want to achieve.

The world is full of opportunities to make yourself useful. Making another person smile or laugh is enough reason for you to feel you are of importance. Purpose is mainly about how you make others feel and the difference you bring to the space you live in. Just help someone in figuring things out and feed their souls or spirits.

We are all important and the world would feel empty if we didn’t exist in the spaces we are in. We should focus on living in the moment, experiencing the beauty of life, and celebrating the smallest wins. Having an appreciative attitude goes a long way. It makes us focus on the positives and acknowledge that we are privileged in various ways. Try to do the things that bring you joy e.g reading, swimming, dancing, going for nature walks, riding bikes, listening to loud music, talking to a friend, writing. Do not let negative thoughts consume you.

By Ambitious Val

Choosing Yourself: The Art of Saying No, Self-Appreciation, and Confidence

Hey lovely people,I thank God for you and thanks for the amazing comments and feedback. I’ll cover the requests am getting from you and I hope my content will be of help to some of you if not all of you. In this piece I’ll handle the remaining questions.

5. Do I say NO to my friends when their plans inconvenience me? When it comes to this,people can be a bit reluctant. It is not easy to say no to your friends. Also as a person,I do struggle with saying no to my friends. When we say no,it’s easy for us to be left out and miss out. When we meet our friends we have fun,create more memories together and this makes the bonds stronger. Who doesn’t want to be a part of all this? And how can we achieve this if we turn down a meet up/hang out? You find that we compromise alot of things just because we want to be present. By doing this,you may end up not even having fun at a personal level since your mind is lingering on the things you had to postpone or forego just to be present and impress your friends. It is important that you learn on when to say no. You should choose what is more important at that moment. Is it going out and have some drinks with friends or prepare for an exam that you are supposed to sit for tomorrow? Is it spending your money on tours/travels with friends or going for that medical check up you have been meaning to? Trust me,being honest with yourself and with your friends will save you alot of trouble. I’ll respect you more when you turn me down because of something you’ve been meaning to do for yourself and suggest we reschedule instead to a time that will suit both of us or the parties involved.

6. Do I compliment myself often? As a human being,you need or crave to be told good things about you. You feel so good when a friend tells you how good you look,you take pride when they point out something that you are excellent at. Now,do you say good things to you? How often do you point out your strengths to you? Why is it that you are quick to condemn yourself when you’ve done something wrong yet you fail to say good things out loud to yourself? Make it a habit to be loud about the positives. The same way you are always complimenting the people without,you should always compliment the person within. You deserve everything that you offer the ones around you. Never forget that you are a person!

7. Do I feel confident? Based on our different personalities,people have different levels of confidence/self esteem. Someone who is comfortable with themselves have a high self esteem. It means they see themselves as deserving the respect of others. You should identify the kind of things that make you feel good about yourself and also get involved in activities that allow you to have fun and loosen up. Also,do things that you are good at and they will add into making you feel confident. Dressing is another thing that can either build or kill your confidence. Be in clothes that are comfortable. This way,you don’t have to worry alot about how you look. In my opinion,I think that confidence comes with how an individual views themselves and how they think they appear to others. So being smart and in comfortable clothes makes one feel better about their appearance.

Thank you for reading through this piece. I hope I have covered the fundamentals in every question. I will appreciate your feedback.

Self-Love Check-In: 4 Powerful Questions to Transform Your Confidence

Hey my lovely people. I’m here again with some more content on self love. I would like this to be like a conversation between me and you;give me feedback and share your thoughts in the different things I’ll talk about. You should be comfortable and free in this space,be you. In my previous post I had listed a number of questions for you to gauge your affection towards you/the person beneath your skin. In this piece I will handle a few of the questions and give the possible responses.

1. Do I compare myself to others? It is not entirely wrong to compare yourself to your colleagues,what matters is how that comparison affects you and how often you do it and in what occasions. For someone who loves themselves,the answer can be No or Yes I do compare myself at times just to check how I am doing. People say that comparison is a killer of joy. The only comparison I expect you to do is the one that challenges you to work smarter/harder in order to achieve the things you wish for yourself. It should be about the things you can work on as a person to be at a better place. Do not bring yourself down just coz someone is doing better than you,we aren’t running the same race and we don’t actually want the same things in life. The sun and the moon are worlds apart,they all shine differently but are very unique and beautiful in their own ways. You shine brightest when you are just you✨. Also,don’t forget that social media is plastic. People post the best of their experiences and the perfect pictures. Nobody posts their failure and the days they look like a mess. You are only made to see what the person posting wants you to see.

2. Do I care alot about people’s opinions especially about my physique? Maybe your answer is no I don’t care alot about people’s opinions or yes sometimes I do care. One thing you should know is that people will always talk. We have two ears and one mouth coz we are meant to listen more and talk less yet human beings are fond of the complete opposite. You can have the best personality and the most streamlined body but people will still talk. Listen here,I know you have insecurities. This is very normal,I also have insecurities about my body. Should I let you in a little secret? EVERYONE HAS INSECURITIES. We aren’t perfect and we aren’t meant to be perfect. We are humans and humans are beautiful through their different imperfections. What should matter is how you think about your body. Dress yourself in clothes that make you feel good about your features and it will elevate your mood and self image.

3. Do I seek for people’s recognition in my day to day activities? Your answer should be no or at times. Why feel the need for people’s validation? Seeking people’s recognition means you are living in your head,you aren’t honest with yourself,not genuinely happy. When you are doing the things that matter to you and feel satisfied at a personal level it doesn’t matter whether someone says you are doing good or not. Yes sometimes you’ll feel bad when people don’t comment that you are doing great but, you should be your own fan. Appreciate your small and big wins and be happy with the things you are doing. Celebrate you if there’s no one to congratulate and celebrate you. Give yourself the things you seek from the ones around you.

4. Do I choose myself over the people I love when I need to? My answer is yes. Well,people may term this as selfish when you put your needs before others but you are the one to decide when you need to choose you over everyone else. You need time to be alone and work on yourself. It is not your responsibility to always take care of the ones you love. Sure,you should be there when they need you but you should also be there for you when you need you. You shouldn’t overstretch just coz you want to show someone that you care. Choosing you means you know what makes you happy,what makes you uncomfortable,what makes you feel you are not appreciated,and you are aware of when you need a break.

Let me know the various ways you answered the above questions and your possible explanations. I will write more on the remaining questions.

Thank you for reading through this article.

Self Love

This is a very interesting and broad topic. Love is something that all human beings crave. Everyone is always busy trying to get love from others and also trying to show that they love the people they care for. We must therefore ask ourselves what love is. Love is actually one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. It is an intense feeling of affection,warmth,adoration or fondness for someone/something.There are different types of love depending on the relationship between people.

I will major on self love. Self is the identity of any person or thing. Therefore,self love is the care/affection that one accords to himself or herself. People assume that they give themselves self love just because that is the person they live beneath. But the truth is that many people do not accord themselves the amount of affection they struggle to give to others. How can one know that they really know how to show love to themselves? Ask yourself the following questions :

1. Do I constantly compare myself to others?

2. Do I care so much about people’s opinions about me especially my physique?

3. Do I need people’s recognition in my day to day activities?

4. Do I choose myself over the people I care for when I really need to?

5. Do I say no to my friends when their plans inconvenience me?

6. Do I compliment myself often?

7. Do I feel confident?

For someone who loves themselves enough,they are able to answer the above questions without hesitation. Darling,you deserve to love yourself without limits and unconditionally. You should be able to take care of yourself the same way you strive to take care of those around you.

Thank you for reading through this. You can tell me the things you would like to hear about and ways I can improve this page for you.

By Ambitious Val