It is okay to not be okay!

I had this tendency of always being strong and taking blows as they come. All my life the people around me have been praising how strong of a lady I am and they admire that. It led me to thinking that I shouldn’t show it when I am not okay. I didn’t let things get into me no matter how hurt and broken I should have seemed physically.

Recently,I realized that there is power in being vulnerable. Acknowledging that we aren’t doing fine and allowing ourselves to feel the different range of emotions,just soaking in them. It has allowed me to unload the heavy weights on my shoulders and in my heart. Nobody stated that being vulnerable is about talking and crying to people. You can let that soft part of yourself out when in your room alone or just write your problems down in a book.

Who said men aren’t allowed to feel? If they can love,hate,be happy,angry,anxious, excited and all: why aren’t they allowed to hurt? Men too are human and they feel everything that females feel with that same intensity if not more. We have been brainwashed and misled for years to believe that men are strong,they don’t have feelings,they aren’t allowed to cry. Are they rocks? Even animals cry and they aren’t well familiar with the words emotions and feelings.

Well,as someone who has been acting like *a man* even though I’m a lady,I’m here to tell all of you it’s okay to let yourself be vulnerable and let out your feelings. Admit them to yourself and maybe to someone you trust. You’ll be relieved of alot of pain/rage that you aren’t even aware is bottled up in you. Feel your feelings!

By Ambitious Val